Hi Reader!

I tend to avoid making someone uncomfortable (by initiating a difficult conversation), even when something they did made me uncomfortable, especially when it’s a subtle or sensitive situation. I’m consciously working on that (I still struggle sometimes😭).

I try to resolve it internally, but it doesn’t always work. And when it doesn’t, two things happen - either a growing resentment because of unaddressed issues or an uncontrolled moment of outburst due to overwhelming unresolved emotions. Or both.

Sometimes, people don't know how to treat you, how their words and actions affect you, what you like, or what you don't like, unless you tell them. And sometimes, you can misunderstand people’s intentions.

Honestly, I have a few conversations I need to have. But I was impressed with my progress in a work-related incident last week.😅

Life is full of compromises, yes, but you want to make sure you're not swallowing everything that comes your way just to maintain the peace or be respectful.

Is it uncomfortable? Oh yes! But, is it worth it in the long term? Absolutely.

What does speaking up look like? I could give examples of specific words or sentences, but I want to focus on intent. Your goal isn’t to escalate conflict, instigate a harsh exchange, or use demeaning language and names.

You're basically drawing attention to an issue, explaining your position, and correcting a misunderstanding. You want the other person to see what you think, how you feel, what you stand for, and what you stand against.

As with everything else, the more you practice, the better you get at it. That’s literally what I tell myself when. “How are you going to get better if you don’t practice?”

Alright, that'll be all for now, until next Friday.

Light & Increase,

Osose Christabel.

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