Hi Reader! I tend to avoid making someone uncomfortable (by initiating a difficult conversation), even when something they did made me uncomfortable, especially when it’s a subtle or sensitive situation. I’m consciously working on that (I still struggle sometimes😭). I try to resolve it internally, but it doesn’t always work. And when it doesn’t, two things happen - either a growing resentment because of unaddressed issues or an uncontrolled moment of outburst due to overwhelming unresolved...
9 days ago • 1 min read
Hi Reader! Humans love conditions. We love outcomes. “I’ll do this if they do that”. “I’ll only go out of my way if I get so and so benefit”, and honestly? Sometimes, we need conditions, especially in work environments, because humans will take advantage of things, processes, and people if there are no boundaries whatsoever. But if a satisfying outcome is the only metric that inspires your decision, would that be an authentic way to live? What if you did things because that’s who you are (or...
16 days ago • 1 min read
Hi Reader! It’s been a minute, thanks to life doing the most, but I wanted to share this with you. When I hear the word ‘patience’, the next thing that comes to mind is ‘waiting’. And the last thing I want to do is wait. I curate a timeline in my head of when I expect to get what I want. Anything beyond that feels like torture. But I’ve had to learn to wait. Listening to a sermon helped to remodel my mindset on patience. The preacher talked about how waiting doesn’t equal being idle and just...
23 days ago • 1 min read
Hi Reader! People are always quick to point out how important discipline is and how motivation is overrated. I argue that motivation is the first step to becoming more disciplined. You need a clear picture in your mind of what you desire, so much that you're willing to endure the disciplines it'll take to materialize that image. Humans don't just embrace discipline. We're motivated by so many things, and I believe it's important to examine our motivations to understand what's really driving...
3 months ago • 1 min read
Hi Reader! One thought that has consumed my mind as I'm figuring out life and adulthood is the kind of person I want to be. How do I want people to remember their encounter with me? A few things come to mind, and I’ll highlight one today. Growing up, I've always been among the “smart and outgoing” kids. You know those kids who get decent grades, speak or perform confidently in public, write and memorize well. But in university, especially after graduating, I quickly realized that whatever I...
3 months ago • 1 min read
Hi Reader! We have all that we need to be 1% better today, and repeat tomorrow. We just dislike the idea of starting small, asking for help, looking scrappy and enduring the hard things. We want the posh appearance, the expensive gear, the mainstream mentors, the huge capital.. So when someone asks you why you haven't started yet. You have a lot to say. “I don't have money. I don't have a good camera. I can't afford the course. I'm not this, I'm not that..” We love pointing to all that we...
4 months ago • 1 min read
Hi Reader! This is a repost by the way.🙈 Enjoy! Ever witnessed a heated debate about the greatest people in a field? Whether it's football, basketball, Hollywood, Kdrama or a comparison of your local universities. Of course, such an argument is to be expected when people pick favourites even among people, places, or things with great qualities. The truth is, every competitor in a “who's the greatest” debate possesses excellent attributes worth admiring and discussing. But, since only a very...
4 months ago • 1 min read
Hi Reader! Last week, I talked about expressing love and gratitude, but let's keep it a hundred, these aren't the only feelings or expressions we manage in our relationships. The closer you are to someone, the more their words and actions could hurt you because you believe they should know and do better. So how do you express hurt, anger, or disappointment without escalating the situation? Take it from someone who's been on both ends, escalating and de-escalating issues, depending on my word...
4 months ago • 1 min read
Hi Reader! Sometimes, it's hard to express how we feel to the people we hold dear. Especially when the words feel emotional, sensitive, or too mushy and cringeworthy. Your culture, environment, and upbringing will also determine your cringe and awkward metre. However, we want the people in our lives to know how much their presence, support, and consistency mean to us. Like some people, I also struggle with expressing my admiration, love, or gratitude. But I find it's easier when I localize my...
5 months ago • 1 min read